Questions for Culturally and Ethnically Diverse Couples

When two people from different cultures fall in love, they bring two histories, two mother tongues, two kitchens, two churches, two sets of in-laws, and two worlds of unspoken rules about what a good husband, wife, parent, son, or daughter is supposed to do. Most of what causes friction in a cross-cultural marriage is not disagreement. It is assumption. Questions for Culturally and Ethnically Diverse Couples is a year's worth of the right questions for couples building one life out of two heritages. Written by Pesa and Whitney Shayo, a Kenyan-American Christian couple who learned the hard way that love alone does not bridge a cultural gap, this book covers 17 of the territories where misunderstandings happen most: language and communication, family structure and gender roles, food and culinary traditions, faith and spiritual expression, holidays and traditions, customs and rituals, money and financial culture, in-laws and extended family, raising bicultural children, blended families, identity and race, homeland and heritage, conflict, loyalty and boundaries, and building a new shared culture together. The 500+ questions are not a test. They are an invitation to be fully known by the person you share a life with, and to fully know them back. This book is for cross-cultural and multi-ethnic Christian couples who want to honor their differences instead of erase them. It is also a resource for premarital counselors, marriage small group leaders, multicultural ministries, and couples' retreats. Inside you will find: 17 chapters covering the most common friction points in cross-cultural marriage 500+ open-ended questions designed for honest conversation A guide for counselors and group leaders Personal reflections from Pesa and Whitney drawn from their own marriage Notes…